{"id":23,"date":"2026-01-09T22:14:53","date_gmt":"2026-01-09T22:14:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thehouseoftzur.com\/?page_id=23"},"modified":"2026-04-08T22:05:06","modified_gmt":"2026-04-08T22:05:06","slug":"about-me","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/thehouseoftzur.com\/en\/about-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Hero"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; fullwidth=&#8221;on&#8221; custom_padding_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; next_background_color=&#8221;#ffb356&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; background_image=&#8221;https:\/\/thehouseoftzur.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/ChatGPT-Image-Feb-8-2026-05_10_31-AM.png&#8221; background_blend=&#8221;overlay&#8221; background_enable_pattern_style=&#8221;on&#8221; background_enable_mask_style=&#8221;on&#8221; transform_scale_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; transform_scale_phone=&#8221;&#8221; transform_scale_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; transform_translate_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; transform_translate_phone=&#8221;&#8221; transform_translate_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; transform_rotate_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; transform_rotate_phone=&#8221;&#8221; transform_rotate_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; transform_skew_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; transform_skew_phone=&#8221;&#8221; transform_skew_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; transform_origin_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; transform_origin_phone=&#8221;&#8221; transform_origin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; transform_styles_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; width_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; max_width_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; max_width_phone=&#8221;&#8221; max_width_last_edited=&#8221;on|desktop&#8221; min_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; min_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; min_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; height_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; max_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; max_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; max_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_margin_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_phone=&#8221;&#8221; custom_margin_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; custom_padding_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; custom_padding_phone=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_style_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_style_phone=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_style_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; top_divider_color_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_color_phone=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_color_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; top_divider_height_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_height_phone=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_height_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; top_divider_repeat_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_repeat_phone=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_repeat_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; top_divider_flip_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_flip_phone=&#8221;&#8221; top_divider_flip_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; bottom_divider_style=&#8221;slant&#8221; bottom_divider_flip=&#8221;horizontal&#8221; transform_styles_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; transform_styles_phone=&#8221;&#8221; module_alignment_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; module_alignment_phone=&#8221;&#8221; module_alignment_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; filter_hue_rotate_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; filter_hue_rotate_phone=&#8221;&#8221; filter_hue_rotate_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; filter_saturate_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; filter_saturate_phone=&#8221;&#8221; filter_saturate_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; filter_brightness_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; filter_brightness_phone=&#8221;&#8221; filter_brightness_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; filter_contrast_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; filter_contrast_phone=&#8221;&#8221; filter_contrast_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; filter_invert_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; filter_invert_phone=&#8221;&#8221; filter_invert_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; filter_sepia_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; filter_sepia_phone=&#8221;&#8221; filter_sepia_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; filter_opacity_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; filter_opacity_phone=&#8221;&#8221; filter_opacity_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; filter_blur_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; filter_blur_phone=&#8221;&#8221; filter_blur_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; mix_blend_mode_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; mix_blend_mode_phone=&#8221;&#8221; mix_blend_mode_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; border_radii_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; border_radii_phone=&#8221;&#8221; border_radii_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; border_width_all_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; border_width_all_phone=&#8221;&#8221; border_width_all_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; border_color_all_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; border_color_all_phone=&#8221;&#8221; border_color_all_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; border_style_all_tablet=&#8221;&#8221; border_style_all_phone=&#8221;&#8221; border_style_all_last_edited=&#8221;on|phone&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_fullwidth_header title=&#8221;Built From Collapse. Refined Through Discipline.&#8221; subhead=&#8221;A man is not defined by what breaks him. 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